Robert Shade

Funeral Mass

9:45 am
Monday, August 1, 2022
Our Lady of the Snow Catholic Church
175 Blue Point Ave
Blue Point, New York, United States

Obituary of Robert A. Shade

Robert (Bob) Shade, 82, of Bayport, New York, died peacefully on July 8, 2022 after a short illness. Bob was born near Detroit, Michigan to Jack and Adele Shade. He graduated from West Hempstead High School and received undergraduate and master's degrees in physics from Adelphi University. Bob worked for many years as a systems engineer at Hazeltine Corporation (later BAE systems). He taught physics courses at SUNY Farmingdale and Stony Brook University.

In 1965, Bob married Claudia Gilbert, with whom he had three children: Dave, Kathy, and JoAnne. Bob was later married to Roberta Fanning. He spent the last years of his life with his beloved wife, Patty Jones, and her family.

Bob was known for his keen intelligence and many talents. He was an accomplished jazz pianist, playing at clubs and churches; enjoyed building model ships; and pursued a decades-long relationship with the game of golf both in NY and in Sarasota, Florida, where he spent winters for the past 10+ years. Bob had a great sense of humor and continued to share witty comments with hospital staff even during his last days. Very important to Bob were the friendships and connections he made in over five decades as an active member of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Bob is survived by his wife Patty, stepchildren Jenna (Brian) and Chris, and step-grandchildren Max, Alexander, Julianna and Vida. Also mourning his passing are his brother Mike (Ev) and sister, Judy Carrick; children Dave (Betsy), Kathy, and JoAnne (Dave); his grandchildren Danny, Julie, Jamie, Tim, Carrie, and Becky Shade; Ellie Quinn; Amy, Michael, and Kelly Messol; his great-grandchildren Carson, Scarlett, and Willow Piggott, and six nephews. Bob was preceded in death by his granddaughter, Katie Shade.

The family would like to thank the staff of Northwell South Shore Hospital for their kind and compassionate care during Bob's last days. A funeral service will be held at Our Lady of the Snow Catholic Church, 175 Blue Point Ave, Blue Point, New York 11715, on August 1 at 9:45am to be followed by a remembrance gathering at the American Legion Hall, 23 Foster Avenue, Sayville, New York. Updated information about Bob's services will be posted on

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